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Originally Posted by wendy bob
How do you ensure that you are follwing the same principles for addressing negative behaviour with girls and boys, for example if both genders where behaving inappropriately would you approach this in the same way?
really dont know what to write as i would treat them the same  |
Yes, I would treat any child (whatever the gender) with respect and explain to them (taking into account their age and stage) that whatever they were doing was not appropriate i.e. if they are becoming a little too boisterous, explain to them they are in a confined area and other children are likely to get hurt, so either you can move them where there is more space, or allow them to take their game outside.
The same with voices, explain that inside we need 'inside' voices - not so loud as the sound hits the ceiling and comes down again (into our ears), explain that outside their voices are free to travel.
if you think one or more are being unkind to another child, again talk about feelings and what it would be like if they were the ones not allowed to play. Of course, no one must be forced to play with others or games not of their choice, but very often it is because a child does not want to join in the way the others are playing (that hissy fit you spoke of). Explain to the children they don't always have to play together, if they wish to do something else, they can do so, explain they have a choice either to join in with the game or do something of their own choosing and they could join up later with something they both like to play with.
You might find that a child needs a little distraction and encouragement to get back on 'the right track'. You can ask them and another or two to play a game, or you join in with their picnic etc, to help guide and model how you treat others well. At this young age, they are not going to agree to disagree, and if the situation looks like it needs adult help, that's when you have to step in, but only after you have observed to see if they can problem solve themselves. If adults jump in every time, it won't help a child in the long run.
They need to learn to share, compromise and negoiate and it's like everything, they need tp practise, stay close by to make sure it's going in the right direction and occassionally helping by adding just a word or two, allowing them to continue their play.
Remember to give praise for their positive behaviour and tell them what was good - 'Good Sharing', 'That was very kind helping ..... into his fire fighter jacket' etc . Don't give false or praise every second - they know and won't value it as much - just like us really.
Circle time is a good idea to talk of feelings, emotions, expected behaviour, manners, respect, get the children involved in what they think is right and wrong and why. There are some lovely golden rule books by Donna Luck such as 'We are kind and Helpful' There is a whole set of them and the children love the animal characters who learn right from doing wrong.
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