Hi, something like this is good if you can empathise with it. How would you feel if rushed, pushed, pressured to go/finish, not allowed enough time to toilet the way you want & are used to, felt you would miss/miss out on something if you left .. how would you feel if you were assured proceedings would wait until your return or that someone would update you on what was happening/happened? What if you were asked to use toileting facillities that you were uncomfortable with - dirty, smelt differently, were unfamiliar, too high, too short, used different hand cleaning routines/equipment. Do you find yourself taking longer if out in comparrison to at home?
Toilet training from the bbc.
Rushing children who are learning about toilet training and what everyone's expectations are can be stressful. If rushed they can feel out of control and as such unable to control, recognise or learn to recognise the actions, routines, sensations, brain messages that idicate the need for visiting the toilet .. resulting possibly in delaying any learning & development, damage to confidence, self esteem, creating a feeling of doubt, failure, insecurtity, lack of trust ..
All children, famillies and communities are different and there are many expectations & non expectations involved from relatives/family, friends, medical and professional practioners.
eg: that the child will be dry by xx age, dry night times, dry day times, by the time they enrol at preschool/nursery/school, because xx was dry by xx age or where a sibling/relative was dry earlier or later, where a type of equipment or item was favoured to work more successfully over another, cultural expectations, holiday bookings, fear of developmental delay due to medical reasons, opinion, knowledge & own understanding ..
It is hugely important to support Children by not rushing or expecting so that they learn to know, understand and recognise what their body needs are and to know what they can do in response .. leading to independance, confidence, reassurance ..
To complete this as a reflective account can you maybe think of an occasion when you've all been ready to move on to a new activity and someone has requested to go to the toilet? How has this impacted on what everyone is doing, expecting to do and how were you able to support the Child/children so that they know it's fine and perfectly natural/ok to toilet whenever needed?
A setting visit, trip to see santa or if santa was visiting, pantomime, during the Christmas play or party. Depending on the age of the children you will begin to recognise some of movements & actions children can display when needing to go ..
Positive and negative expectations when discussing toilet needs are also something you could consider. I personally ask if a visit to the toilet is needed if I see a movement or action that indicates a need .. regardless of age really .. but that they may of been too busy, engaged, quiet, or overwhelmed to act on .. asking if anyone needs the toilet before leaving the house is a strategy that doesn't always work for others but can remind me
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Other ideas are to see what your policies & procedures advise .. are there any written or unwritten feelings in regards to 'out of nappies, admission, policy on pull ups, changing and facillities for changing, spare clothes, contacting parents, do you allow potty's to commute between home & setting for transitional/comfort needs, are there any procedures for medical needs ..
If you have time search online for
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