Hey Farlyes!

I just wanted to give you a I have been in a similar situation and know how you feel about continuing to work for the same people!

I was kind of the opposite situation where I HAD a sicknote and had been off for a few weeks due to a VERY difficult situation in my personal life! for the 8 years previous I must have had a total of 4 weeks of sick!! Which compared to my many colleagues was nothing! I had devoted all of my time and effort to the setting and NEVER gave any cause for concern - my work was always fo a high standard etc

Anyway, despite HAVING a valid sick note my employer more or less told me that I was expected back at work now or I wouldnt get the promotion I was after!

Needless to say I told him I would be back when it was appropriate for my health and well being and not before! I got my promotion and more or less moved on straight away - I didnt want to work for someone who couldnt support me when I NEEDED it!!

My employer was so sore about it that he wrote me a reference for my next job which was a complete list of lies - serious lies! If it wasnt for my other references I wouldnt have got the job!!! (and I thought I had left on good terms!!) I SOOOOOOO wish I had done something about that reference in hind site! but at the time I just didnt have the energy wih everything else that was going on in my life!

Im a very level headed person but I tell you this....if I ever bump into my previous employer....!! :gnasher: :talktothe

Opps! lol sorry guys I'll get down off my soap box and stop ranting now!! Farleys I just wanted you to know I understand!!! take care! and make sure you follow it up or like me you will probably regret it!!

Take care!