try the swear box at home maybe? if the girl swears in your care tell the parent infront of the child and exaderate your disapointment and then the parent takes the toy away again showing disapointment once at home but if she goes without swaring tell the parent enthusiastically infront of the child and maybe a small reward can be given to her by the parent say after a week if she is improving so you have your positive and negative reinforcement in place
also you could try giving exrtra praise when she is using acceptable language for example "that is lovely talking to your frends that way well done" making it very clear when she is doing what you want
also try when she is swearing commenting to other children about their good/friendly talking.
also try giving the girl a job (but introduce as a good fun thing so she is not pressured) - explain she has to be a good role model and show the younger children how to be friendly -i.e how to talk and get mum to talk about it as well come up with a story for her about it and really give a lot of praise but when she is swearing remind her by saying for example "oh dear are you being a good role model?"
explain it upsets you when she swears "oh no thats not nice you have made me sad now"
also possibly activities about feelings-circle time, face pictures etc could help her as it seems she tends to swear most when not getting her own way or not getting attention
and there are stories about adults being busy and the child being there trying to get attention but not getting it but at the end they learn that the adults are still looking after them and love them. there is one about a boy who yells and the adults say not now but then they all have a hug at the end but i can not remember what it is called-look in the libary for stories and story sacks
there are behavioural books by beaver and penny tassoni that are very good
reasure mum theres nothing to worry about copying means she has great observational skills and its normal for children to go through phases of showing unwanted behaviours especially at age 3
also another thing you could do is say stop! then count to 5 as a warning to stop before time out-(try a different time out place as well) when counting 1..2...3...4... ...5 use your hand as well put a finger up for each number after doing it a few times like that when she is swearing get her attention i.e patting her shoulder gentley to get her to turn to face you and only do the hand gesture with a look-this way if you are on the phone you can still comunicate with her while still being able to talk on the phone get her parent to do the same at home also.
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