For some parents routine provides a sense of structure that relaxes them ~ by knowing what needs to be done and when they can get feel more in control and ultimately more calm and confident with their parenting.
It is this calmness and confidence that the child benefits from. A relaxed, happy parent is more emotionally able to connect with & provide their children with what it is they really need ~ quality time, someone who listens to them, laughs with them and plays with them & lets them know how wonderful they are (among other things).
Flexibility is wonderful if that is who you are & if that works for you. For some parents (& their children) lack of routine works best for them. For others, routine provides a sense of safety that allows them to thrive. There is no right or wrong ~ it is about working out what best suits you and your child.
Neither structure & consistency.... OR .... flexibility by themselves make a good (or bad) parent .... but a calm, happy, relaxed parent ...that is a fairly good start!
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